My wife and older son are off at a cabin right now, hanging out with another mom and her two kids. Ben and I have been on our own since about noon yesterday. We spend a lot of time alone together. My wife's job requires her to go on occasional trips and frequently work on weekends. Even so, I can barely imagine what it's like to be a single parent of an autistic kid or kids (like this lady).
When we were first researching what the autism diagnosis meant, I came across a statistic saying that 80% of couples with an autistic kid get divorced. That sent a chill down my spine. Put that together with my wife being an attorney, a female attorney, and me having been married before, and our odds of remaining married are pretty dang low.
It doesn't feel that way though. I fell in love with my wife about 17 years ago. I keep finding more reasons to love and respect her. Raising an autistic kid does add stress, but it's also shown me facets of my wife that I might never have seen otherwise, and I love her all the more.
Oh, apparently that 80% number is bunk.
Anyway, my hat's off to those of you going it alone. Hang in there, kitty.
Tip o the day:
Have a date night. Heck, go stay in a hotel. We had trouble finding sitters who could handle Ben until I came across Sitter City. It's a matchmaking service that hooks parents up with sitters (or nannies). You can describe what your needs are (there's even a check box for special needs). We had something like 20 applications in the first day. There was a lot of chaff in there, but we've found 3 wonderful sitters with special needs training who are awesome.